8 lies we tell ourselves (and the questions to bust them)

8 lies we tell urselves (and the questions to bust them)8 lies we tell ourselves (and the questions to bust them)In any given day, thousands of words are coming out of our mouths. fruchtwein of what we say is probably totally true and on point. But so often, we shrug off the things that really matter. Because facing our feelings about something, or speaking those feelings, is justtoomuch. Its not something we feel like doing in the moment.But in masking whats really going on, we not only lie to ourselves, but we lose the ability to excavate our own understanding about the world around us. Little lies might just be little lies to ourselves, until they keep us from our own knowing. And we need that knowing, desperately, in order to take the right steps, in order to trust ourselves and our gut, and in order to make more magic rather than going with the status quo.Theres things that come out of my mouth all the time that I know are just lazy ways of brushing off whats actually going on f or me. But luckily, loving people who know me best will call me on that BS every time. And were all doing it. Like acting OK when were not. Were accepting the situation because fighting it feels hard. Were holding back our feels because of the floodgate it might cause. Were telling ourselves little quips that other people seem to believe but that doesnt actually do anything for expanding and navigating whatever is actually going on for us.The next time you hear these, pause for a minute. Ask a follow up question. Help someone get to their own truth. And the next time you spout off one of them, pause. Ask your own follow up questions. And figure out whats actually going on for you.Its fine. But its actually not.Follow up with ..Is it really fine?Im doing great. But actually feeling like shit.Follow up with Whats really going on?It all happens for a reason. But this one cant possibly be reasoned.Follow up with ...Would it be OK if theres just no reason here?It is what it is.But does i t really have to be this?Follow up with ...Is there a way you could take action for a different outcome?I dont know what to do. Yet. You will.Follow up with ...What would you tell someone else to do?I could care less. When you couldnt care more.Follow up with ...Why dont you care? What would happen if you did?Im so lost. Trust me, youre not.Follow up with ...Whats giving you energy right now? Can you do something small about it?Itll never workout. How could you possibly know?Follow up with ...But what if it did? What if it could? What would you be doing differently right now?Questions get us to truth. Ask more of them, to yourself and to others. When we can break down the lies we can get to a place of living our truth confidently. We can be more of ourselves, of who we want to be, of who weare.This article was originally published on MaxieMcCoy.com.8 lies we tell ourselves (and the questions to bust them)In any given day, thousands of words are coming out of our mouths. Most of what we say is probably totally true and on point. But so often, we shrug off the things that really matter. Because facing our feelings about something, or speaking those feelings, is justtoomuch. Its not something we feel like doing in the moment.But in masking whats really going on, we not only lie to ourselves, but we lose the ability to excavate our own understanding about the world around us. Little lies might just be little lies to ourselves, until they keep us from our own knowing. And we need that knowing, desperately, in order to take the right steps, in order to trust ourselves and our gut, and in order to make more magic rather than going with the status quo.There are things that come out of my mouth all the time that I know are just lazy ways of brushing off whats actually going on for me. But luckily, loving people who know me best will call me on that BS every time. And were all doing it. Like acting OK when were not. Were accepting the situation because fighting it feels hard. Were holding back our feels because of the floodgate it might cause. Were telling ourselves little quips that other people seem to believe but that doesnt actually do anything for expanding and navigating whatever is actually going on for us.The next time you hear these, pause for a minute. Ask a follow-up question. Help someone get to their own truth. And the next time you spout off one of them, pause. Ask your own follow up questions. And figure out whats actually going on for you.Its fine. But its actually not.Follow up with Is it really fine?Im doing great. But actually feeling like shit.Follow up with Whats really going on?It all happens for a reason. But this one cant possibly be reasoned.Follow up with ... Would it be OK if theres just no reason here?It is what it is.But does it really have to be this?Follow up with ... Is there a way you could take action for a different outcome?I dont know what to do. Yet. You will.Follow up with ...What would you tell someone else to do?I could care less. When you couldnt care more.Follow up with ...Why dont you care? What would happen if you did?Im so lost. Trust me, youre not.Follow up with ... Whats giving you energy right now? Can you do something small about it?Itll never workout. How could you possibly know?Follow up with ... But what if it did? What if it could? What would you be doing differently right now?Questions get us to truth. Ask more of them, to yourself and to others. When we can break down the lies we can get to a place of living our truth confidently. We can be more of ourselves, of who we want to be, of who weare.This article first appeared on MaxieMcCoy.com.